Well here we are on the verge of another Valentine's Day. For the uniformed among us I copied the history of this interesting 'holiday" from "Wikipedia" please see below. Valentine's Day can be a fun day and if you are lucky enough to be in love it can be a great excuse to do some random acts of romance (not that you should really need an excuse!). However, it you are single or in a relationship that is in trouble it can be a very trying day.
When we are children it is a fun day and everyone brings everyone little Valentines and candy, not much pressure. As we get older it becomes much more selective and some of us are left out and it can be very hurtful. As adults it serves as a reminder that we have still not met that one special person. Intellectually, we know it is a very important process, one that takes time, effort, perseverance, and luck, but with all the hype of Valentine's Day it can be a depressing day, even making some feel like failures.
I strongly believe that there is always someone out there for everyone, that your match is out there and you certainly are not a failure if you simply haven't found her yet. As a matter of fact, the opposite could be said. With the US domestic divorcee rate at over 50 percent (international couples do seem to fare better in that category) it seems that many rush into marriage just for the sake of being married, in other words, they settle. There are some things you can settle for, like when buying a car, or a house, but you should never settle for something as important as finding the person with whom you wish to spend the rest of your life. So you really should not feel down on Valentine's Day if you have not yet found your soul mate, it will happen, just be glad that you are not one of those that did settle and now have to face Valentines in a relationship that is unfortunately far from where they would like it to be.
So guys, if you find yourself single on this Valentine's Day look at it as a great opportunity. Thank your lucky stars that you are not trapped in a dead-end, complicated, bad relationship - you just haven't found her yet, there is so much ahead of you yet to come.
You do have to take some responsibility to make it happen. You just can't go to work every day and come home, watch TV and go to sleep. You need to put yourself out there and take advantage of all the dating options that you are comfortable with, both domestic and international. Obviously, I think the international options are fantastic, worked for me and thousands of others, but that is not the only option. I think you have to keep a very open mind and really make yourself available to all the possible options. If you do decide to go the international route do not just write letters or do chat, that really won't move you ahead much, you have to get yourself over there and in front of real live women to make something happen.
In the meantime, there are perks of being single on Valentine's Day, for instance, you are not obligated to purchase roses or jewelry, or go to a fancy French restaurant, which are all insanely inflated for this very special day!
John Adams
A Foreign Affair
En réponse à une demande du Congrès américain il y a plusieurs années, le U.S. Le ministère de la Justice a publié un rapport relatif aux questions d'immigration et de mariage international qui indiquait "il semblerait" que les mariages entre citoyens américains et étrangers "auraient tendre à durer plus longtemps" que celle des mariages domestiques dans leur ensemble. C'est une manière subtile de dire que les données reflètent que les mariages entre personnes de pays et de cultures différents dans les États-Unis sont généralement plus réussis à long terme. Il peut y avoir de nombreuses raisons à cela - si cette recherche de haut niveau est exacte.
Grâce à notre expérience, nous avons constaté que les célibataires désireux de trouver un compagnon de vie recherchent souvent des valeurs et des attitudes qu'ils estiment ne pas pouvoir trouver chez eux. Ils sont frustrés par les opportunités et les options qui s'offrent à eux dans leur région immédiate. Malgré les défis apparents, ils se rendent compte qu'ils peuvent élargir leurs horizons romantiques (et devraient probablement le faire) pour rechercher dans le monde cette UNE personne spéciale qui est parfaite pour eux… pour toujours.
Un amour durable est possible. La chimie et la connexion que vous recherchez EST possible sans compromis. Peu importe ce dont vous débattez avec vous-même, le moment est venu, au moins, d'explorer votre opportunité. La déclaration que nous entendons le plus souvent de la part des clients qui ont fait appel à nos services est « Pourquoi n'ai-je pas fait cela il y a des années? »
Si ce n'est pas le bon moment - quand sera-t-il le bon? Pourquoi gaspiller potentiellement des années de votre vie parce que vous vous êtes défendu d'enquêter sur votre opportunité en ce moment parce que ce n'est pas encore le bon moment - ou vous êtes sceptique quant au processus de jumelage international sans au moins l'explorer. C'est le bon moment. Vous pourriez être agréablement surpris de voir à quel point le processus peut être facile, aventureux et abordable. En ce moment même, vous n'avez absolument rien à perdre.